” Mind Wandering Leads to Unhappiness” Is an important Saying.. Mind Wandering is not a disease it is not a symptom , it is a natural process .. Lot of people consider Mind Wandering , Stress as those Major Diseases or some thing which is not normal. Research Studies have also suggested that lot of time stress leads to innumerable damage.
Stress or any kind of grief , detachment , anger , feeling of getting cheated by people, people breaking your heart , people not living up to the expectation is all facts of modern-day life. It doesn’t mean that this is happening only with that person . In todays era of fast paced communication , too much of interaction via daily pictures of WhatsApp or indirect messages on WhatsApp is all there in social media .. Problem is people are so much obsessed with social media now a days that they feel it is their moral responsibility to let people know about their feelings and about what they feel.. Actually to move the elephant out or to make one self lighter every human being find out their on ways and means .. some works for some doesn’t work for others .. so if you like social media do that .. if you don’t do that its simple.. so following points may work well for people who are going through certain situations in their life .. where they want mental strength to be ingrained in their life
- Don’t Feel that you are the only one who suffers —
I have seen , lot of people in this world feel that they are the only one who are suffering but perhaps it is never like that .. This is the first Elephant which you have taken away from your brain .. Every one goes through difficult situations in their life .. sooner or later .. some has to face it early and some has to face it late.. but sufferings is part of human life .. human birth .. so never think about what others are thinking .. what’s good with others .such thoughts may surely come so let you go through those thoughts … focus all your energy on yourself.. Go through all cycles of what human being goes through…challenge yourself.. just have least expectation from others…. keep doing good for others.. don’t be judgemental of what you are getting in return.. some people say it is all philosophical.. yeah that’s what every good thing has become philosophical these days.. lot of people feel practical bano .. practical raho.. there is no harm in thinking all that what is mentioned above.. emotions are energy in motions.. but never compromise on following 1) Your health 2) Your thoughts 3) Your Hobbies .. these are those things which will give you tremendous happiness… This three things will help you to take the elephant , you’re so called stress out of the room….
2. At least one hour with your hobby …
I have personally gone through lot of mental trauma, heart-broken … .. but still my hobby has kept me alive.. It has helped me keep going.. it really works.. Lot of people use to tell me this … but when I practiced it I realised.. it is the best thing which can happen to human being.. Have a hobby to keep the elephant out.. Hobbies can be any thing .. My family is a great support to me and because of that I come to know about hobby which makes me feel.. good.. I loved dancing so dancing has helped me all this while to be out of those real.. real .. bad days.. of emotional turmoil.. so let you practice religiously a hobby.. it can be any thing .. if you like reading a book read a book. if you like watering a plant.. do that.. if you like watching starts at night .. watch that .. make that as hobby to learn about them .. or just keep watching them .. According to me it is your relishing time .. relish yourself.. with some thing which is refreshing .. refresh urself.. best part of hobby is that you don’t have expectation with any one.. you are just without any expectation.. expectations from people are some thing which hurts you the most.. your hobbies have no expectation with you.. with any one.. it is some thing which is self less .. purely unconditional …. purely selfless.. that is the best part …I have heard from some body that they love running .. so just run… keep running.. when you go through those feeling of sweat .. feeling of body completely drained.. you feel like you are at the top of the world… running.. is just an awesome experience.. I say hobby more as your experience .. your experience with your own self… Hobby can be rechristened as your experiences.. your experience makes you feel good… In my next write-up .. I am going to write just about experiences.. this experiences.. are worth while…
3. Mind Wandering…
In the Initial Part of my blog , I mentioned about Mind Wandering… Lot of people think it is happening with them .. and not with any one else.. If you feel so.. so what… let it be.. although it is not like that .. but still if you feel.. like that … LET IT BE … let the mind wanders… don’t stop your self from thinking… I have seen lot of people say DONT think … I will not say that… your never know some time thoughts will give you an idea to come out of those situations , for which you are finding the solution… Just try not to over think.. Some time Over thinking leads to lot of problems and challenges… think but avoid over thinking.. Mindfulness technique given by lot of people .. really works.. try Notice .. Shift … Rewire… it works… Google out Mindfulness. speak out with some one whom you love to speak… it helps.. speaking some thing which are your feeling to some one who knows you very well… it works… But Draw a border line .. Don’t Speak in front of those who have no.. care for your feeling… or they make a fun of it.. try to be very selective… Even if you have no body to speak your heart out… pen down.. write .it works…..This Advice is given to me by one of my well-wisher and I have seen it really works.. some time.. nothing work all the time… but even if it works some time .. it is great..
4… You must observe Mornings and Evenings…
Mornings and evenings are the time where you get connect with the nature.. have that .. Connect.. with nature.. is awesome.. Connect with some thing which is of nature .. surely helps.. Connect with any thing .. I use to watch one Squirrel as she used to come every day in my house .. that was such a lovely experience .. Watching Squirrel and her physical activities.. has made me relishing all the time .. She use to dodge lot of things just to get close to the water which wants to drink.. her movement.. was so agile.. So have Connect with the Nature.. It is really helpful…
At last I feel every human being need to find out their own elephant.. there ways .. or they need to just focus on their own goals.. Every body has their unique way of identifying their own happiness.. So it is not that above solution will work for all.. yeah it works.. but I wish to say at end .. Just Be Happy .. and who can find out the way of happiness.. its only you.. its only you who knows how to take the elephant out of the room (which is your brain)…
Enjoy the Experiences.. it is worth enjoying…
Experiential Learning 